Tears, honesty and flirty games: how we escaped our married sex rut

After 15 years and three children, my husband and I found ourselves stuck in an intimacy impasse. Could a therapist help us sizzle again? Its usually when I have my head in the dishwasher that my husband will come up and say, Hey love, do you fancy a cuddle tonight? I dont know how, but somehow cuddle has, over the years, become the cute (but loaded) word for sex in our house. And I, often wanting just a cuddle one that doesnt involve an erection, merely a straight up, PG cuddle often simply clam up. We have a shared craving for closeness but opposing strategies to reach it. While Jim would happily shag his way to a chat, I want …

China wants us to forget the horrors of Tiananmen as it rewrites its history | Louisa Lim and Ilaria Maria Sala

The state is enforcing a collective amnesia about not only recent political events but those that happened thousands of years ago Remembering the deaths of burden and an Zhang Xianling, said she had once managed to hold a small act of remembrance at the spot where her 19-year-old son, Xinjiang scholars: with one million Uighurs held in retrofits its history into a vision that starts in the stone age and ends with the Communist party, a single continuum that serves to legitimise the current leadership and its narrative of the past, the present and the future. Beijing is not alone in this exercise of left Africa for China earlier than previously assumed. The debates can get arcane and heated for …

‘Women will die’: how new abortion bans will harm the most vulnerable

Women of color and poor women will be disproportionately affected by new restrictions across the US, opponents say On the floor of the Alabama state senate this week, a robotic voice read nine pages of legalese that would define a new reality for women in the state: abortion would be a crime, starting from the moment a woman knows she is pregnant. Doctors who perform the procedure could face up to 99 years in prison. Then senators names were called one by one, and they cast their votes. There were 25 yes votes, enough for the bill to pass easily. Every single one was cast by a white man. Those most hurt by the ban, by contrast, will be women …

What does the menopause do to the body?

But as women age and their store of eggs declines, ovulation, periods and pregnancies stop. And the body gradually stops producing oestrogen, which controls the whole process. This doesn’t happen overnight though. It can take several years for this crucial hormone to fall to low levels – and then it stays that way. Image copyright Getty Images Image caption Bones become weaker after the menopause, increasing the risk of osteoporosis When oestrogen production stops altogether, there is a long-term effect on the bones and heart. Bones can weaken, making fractures more likely, and women can become more vulnerable to heart disease and stroke. That’s why women are offered hormone replacement therapy, or HRT, which boosts oestrogen levels and helps to …

Grindr and the ‘new cold war’: why US concerns over the app are dangerous

The Chinese-owned app does pose data risks but wrongly framing such fears can fuel racism and homophobia For years, American leaders claimed that the internet would bring free markets and liberal democracy to China. Today, they are more likely to express worry about how Chinese power and Chinese money are reshaping American tech. Conventional strategic areas, like artificial intelligence and cybersecurity, have received the most scrutiny. But this week the Committee on Foreign Investment in the US (CFIUS) target: the popular gay social networking app Grindr. Grindr is based in West Hollywood and boasts more than 27 million users. The Chinese gaming firm Beijing Kunlun Tech Company acquired it over two years, purchasing a 60% stake in January 2016 and …

Old grudges, new weapons is the US on the brink of war with Iran?

While American hawks talk up an imminent threat from Tehran with no hard evidence, echoing the start of the Iraq conflict, hardliners are in the ascendant in Iran For better or worse, America remains the worlds leading military superpower. In Washington last week, a familiar row erupted over how best that power should be used. Past targets have included Soviet Russia, al-Qaida in Afghanistan and Saddam Hussein in Iraq. Today the international bogeyman topping the White Houses to-do list is Hassan Rouhani, Irans moderate president, and his alliesto fend off US pressure becomes more evident. Defiant Iranian rhetoric is flying hard and fast. Scorning Americas gun to the head, the Revolutionary Guards general Saleh Jokar warned last week that Iran …

How one small step inspired a generation

Moon landing marked by new OS map Moon landing: 13 minutes that defined a century BBC Archive: Nasa’s Apollo lunar missions ‘Space cadets’ Chris Lee, now chief scientist at the UK Space Agency and 12 at the time, remembers being allowed to stay up very, very late at the start of the school holidays. “Mum, Dad, my younger brother and I were gathered around a tiny black-and-white TV, but I don’t recall too much about the late-night landing apart from the descent countdown. I certainly had no sense of how risky the landing had been. “I do recall the long, long wait for the Moonwalk to then actually happen. “My mum and brother fell asleep and Dad stayed with me …

Iran travel warning for dual nationals

British Council worker jailed in Iran named Iran’s conduct ‘worsened’ The Foreign Office updated its advice on Friday. Mr Hunt also warned that Iranian nationals living in the UK should exercise “caution” when returning to Iran to visit family and friends. Related Topics Nazanin Zaghari-Ratcliffe case Iran Foreign & Commonwealth Office Original Article : HERE ; The Ultimate Survival Food: The Lost Ways

Measles vaccination ‘should be compulsory’

How a preventable disease returned from the past ‘My baby’s eyes were swollen shut’ Minister considers ‘all options’ to boost vaccine uptake They have used computer modelling to predict how many measles cases could occur, the journal BMC Medicine reported. It found that the number of cases in the UK could double in the coming decades, leading the researchers to call for compulsory vaccinations as has happened in Italy, where children need to be vaccinated to start primary school. In England, the proportion of children receiving both doses of the measles, mumps and rubella (MMR) jab by their fifth birthday has fallen over the last four years to 87.2%. This is below the 95% said by the World Health Organization …

Why 2020 hopefuls like to announce their plans at the crack of dawn

New York (CNN Business)A version of this article first appeared in the “Reliable Sources” newsletter. You can sign up for free right here. When de Blasio announces his 2020 bid, he will bring “the total number of candidates to 23 with nearly nine months before the first votes are cast,” CNN’s story notes. The coveted “first TV interview” Some, like Joe Biden and Elizabeth Warren, have gravitated toward “The View” or Stephen Colbert’s couch or Rachel Maddow’s studio for their first interview. But others have opted for morning TV rollouts. Kamala Harris entered the race on MLK Day on “GMA.” Bernie Sanders launched his campaign by giving interviews to Vermont Public Radio and “CBS This Morning.” Seth Moulton posted a …

Dallas police raid Catholic diocese properties in investigation of alleged sex abuse by clergy

(CNN)Dallas police searched the headquarters of the Catholic Diocese of Dallas and other properties Wednesday as part of the church’s widening sex abuse scandal, police and church officials said. The diocese said in a statement that Paredes and the other four priests who were the subjects of Wednesday’s search warrant were on a list of accused clergy that Bishop Edward Burns released in January. Burns said the diocese has been cooperating with investigators even before the list was made public. “We recognized throughout our collaboration with the police there are some who are not satisfied and want to look for themselves,” he said. “We know we have given them the files. And so we say by all means look.” The …

New York City Mayor Bill de Blasio announces 2020 presidential run

New York, New York (CNN)New York City Mayor Bill de Blasio entered the 2020 Democratic presidential primary Thursday morning, casting himself as the most accomplished progressive pick in a field of 23 candidates vying for a chance to challenge President Donald Trump next year. “I know we can do it,” he said, “because I’ve done it here in the largest, toughest city in this country.” De Blasio will hit the trail later Thursday, visiting Iowa before heading to South Carolina for events this weekend. The two-term mayor, who in 2017 became the first Democrat re-elected to his office in more than three decades, joins the race after months of deliberations and a handful of visits to early-voting states. Even before …

Why I paint vulvas in public toilets

Image copyright JACK LAWSON Image caption Oliwia was commissioned to design the vulvas on toilet cubicles in bars, pubs and other venues “I think it’s important to recognise that having a vulva or vagina isn’t something that makes a woman, but for a lot of women that have them they’re really important,” says Oliwia. Image copyright JACK LAWSON Image caption Oliwia’s designs on cubicle doors at the Queen of Hoxton bar in London Girl’s guide to what a vulva looks like Although she’s drawing private parts in public spaces, Oliwia doesn’t think there’s anything offensive about her art. “I don’t think sexual organs, in and of themselves, should have positive or negative connotations attached to them as they are just …

Why I paint vulvas in public toilets

Image copyright JACK LAWSON Image caption Oliwia was commissioned to design the vulvas on toilet cubicles in bars, pubs and other venues “I think it’s important to recognise that having a vulva or vagina isn’t something that makes a woman, but for a lot of women that have them they’re really important,” says Oliwia. Image copyright JACK LAWSON Image caption Oliwia’s designs on cubicle doors at the Queen of Hoxton bar in London Girl’s guide to what a vulva looks like Although she’s drawing private parts in public spaces, Oliwia doesn’t think there’s anything offensive about her art. “I don’t think sexual organs, in and of themselves, should have positive or negative connotations attached to them as they are just …

Why I paint vulvas in public toilets

Image copyright JACK LAWSON Image caption Oliwia was commissioned to design the vulvas on toilet cubicles in bars, pubs and other venues “I think it’s important to recognise that having a vulva or vagina isn’t something that makes a woman, but for a lot of women that have them they’re really important,” says Oliwia. Image copyright JACK LAWSON Image caption Oliwia’s designs on cubicle doors at the Queen of Hoxton bar in London Girl’s guide to what a vulva looks like Although she’s drawing private parts in public spaces, Oliwia doesn’t think there’s anything offensive about her art. “I don’t think sexual organs, in and of themselves, should have positive or negative connotations attached to them as they are just …

Meet Larry – a football manager for 65 years

Media playback is unsupported on your device Media captionLarry started managing a football team in the year of the Queen’s Coronation It is Sunday lunchtime, and match day for Chaplins against Belleaire in the Greenock and District Welfare League. Larry Barilli is in the Chaplins dressing room, dishing out the strips to his players. He is pretty angry – his only reserve for the match is the back-up goalkeeper. Larry’s task of managing Chaplins to victory just got a little harder. At least he has his experience to fall back on – Larry is 83, and has been a football manager for almost 66 years. A few fans are also here to support their friends. One young man defies the …